I've never commented on your sit, but I just read this and I feel compelled to just say what a comendable thing it is you are doing. You've been in this thing for several years, and most people would have been long gone by now. You and your W were married for a long time, so these few years of torture may be a worthwhile investment to save those many years of what seemed like a good marriage. But don't allow her to abuse you endlessly; love her, forgive her, but don't placate her. Maybe she needs to know how it feels to lose you? That whole thing about her staying in the home until your son graduates scares me.
