Thank you (((Sandi)))) and (((FitChik))) for your perspective.
Sandi, I had thought you had given up on me because I am like so many of the men here and didn't seem to be following your advice. I am sorry to hear that you have been away because of your health, and I will pray for you.
FitChik, even though we've never met, I feel like you are my prayer partner, and I am so grateful for your encouragement and prayers. Now that I know your name, I'm able to pray for you and V**** by name, although God has always known.
I have been reading a lot here, but not posting because I'm trying not to get drawn in to the daily up-down cycle, but rather just working to stay the course, give it time, give her space, lovingly detach, and hand it over to God.
Since my S11 opened up to me last week about the hurt he is feeling and why I didn't "stop" W from moving out, we have been relating better. I'm doing as you suggest and being more fatherly with both sons, trying to set the example as the strong man, and just trying to make the most of every moment I spend with them.
I know I can't fight the tide, I just need to float... One day at a time, step by step, let go and let God. So simple, yet so difficult.
