Hi, I haven't been here in awhile. Things are still going. I'm not divorced yet..for some strange reason or another. It's been 3 years.
So this is the happenings:
H and I slept together for the first time in Sept 08 after 2 yrs.
Then again in Dec 08.
He is still with OW . She was away in college.
After New years, I decided no more games. I just pulled back. Got on with my life. H called Me Feb. 14 for mundane things all day. I was busy so I didn't answer.
He came the following week and picked me up and hugged me. Told me he was moving to a new place. I said when are you GUYS moving he said..I am moving.
So a couple of weeks ago , OW moved down to be with him. D8 spent he night there. I didn't acknowledge OW was there. He called the next day to see if D8 had a good time..did she say anything..I think he was feeling me out. D8 did say while her and OW were getting things out of the car, daddy was playing playstation..I found that interesting.
I just let it be.
Last week he came to pick up D8, and he started with the flirtations again. Getting close to me, putting me on his lap with D8.
I took it for what its worth.
He told me OW moved in because he need someone to help pay the rent. Do I believe that ..No!
So That day he asked when was I going over to his new place ..i said I'll go now. He texted OW to tell her. She was at work at her waitressing job. She said, " Whatever. That's fine."
So I went over there. On the way, he called me and asked why I was on the phone and who I was talking to ..I guess he was watching me behind him.
When, I got to his place, I said it was nice. I saw a pic of them two and said "How weird" He asked what was weir. I told him I thought she looked different. He asked why? I HONESTLY said I thought she was prettier. I was being honest. He was showing me around.On the way up the stairs, he tried grabbing my butt.
He even showed me the shower head. and said it was great. I found that weird. It bothered him that I thought she wasn't pretty. He kept asking. He then showed me pics of D8. There was one of OW and he said" She doesn't look that great in this one" and didnt want to show it to me.
We then talked a bit more. He said that he would like to have all of us here for D8's bday party. I said H I will always be friends with you but never with OW. she is the person you had an affair with. If it was after we were divorced it would be better. He said But we aren't divorced yet.
He then said" i should just move away" I hate this..this is not the way I wanted my life...this is stupid"
I said..H why are you so unhappy..I could see it in your eyes..You have a new place..OW is living with you..why aren't you happy?
He looked very sad.
I said If you can't handle me not caring at all for OW then you and I wont be friends. He said no its not that.
So I left it at that..I told him D8 was hungry and to go eat with her.
I left. He called to see where I was going..with who..He called again to see what time to drop D8 off.
When he dropped her off I said bye, he said why are you acting so weird.I said I just said bye.
So Today he picks up D8, and grabs me again and hugs me. Tells me he doesn't want me to be mad at him. We had a discussion over the weekend on my financial situation. He always blames me but I told him (nicely) it wouldn't be this way if he left and decided to take care of someone else.I am no longer scared to tell him how I feel.
So he was leaving and said we are way past that..don't be mad at me. i said I wasn't and that was that. He told me my hair looked nice. And then they left.
Its been 3 yrs of this..It confuses me still to this day.
