Letting go and taking a left off last laugh lane

[mishka422]

I am in full agreement with Ali.

1)Tell him the debit for the loan must be drawn off his own account and that you are closing the joint account (or taking your name off of it - whatever the case may be)

2)He needs to hear this, and frankly, you need to say it out loud, to him. Do it Julia. You know you have the control over how this situation affects you and this has to be put on the table between you.

3)Outfits? Yeah, what about those skinny jeans? Or, didn't you have a really fab skirt/boots ensemble that you felt especially confident in? I can't remember if that was you or Lisa. You're both so drop dead georgeous that I mix up who had what wonderful outfit.

Most importantly Julia, be you and be true to yourself. IMO, there is no reason to hold back now. DBing is all well and good if you truly want to restore your M. If you are done, you're done. All that is important is dignity and respect. Don't hide yourself behind the DB tactics anymore.