The schedule and the importance of it being kept... I've had some suggest that I consider a schedule or minimum # of times per week. This seems so "anti passionate." And, strict adherence to the schedule is ever less passionate. It seems like a contract of sorts, or an IOU, and it gives the HD person power. That's not hot. AND: A schedule is a CUE, by the way. [insert eye roll] "Oh boy, it's Tuesday. He's expecting sex and he doesn't have to brave any random day with me."
Maybe you shouldn't "rip her clothes off" at this time. I do think you should grab her and kiss her confidently when you want to initiate, let her reject you if she's not ready, and CONTROL YOUR REACTION so that she feels safe (that is, she feels in control of what she does and is done to her body, and she doesn't have to do something she doesn't want to to avoid suffering in another way). She wants to please you, which is why your reaction to her not keeping up with the schedule made her feel like a slave.
React with beauty to her resistance and to her genuine feelings. If she rejects your bold, manly initiation, be kind, keep smiling, be OK, hug her, and back off. And try again maybe a day or two later. It IS OK for your lover to not want to ML at any given moment. It IS OK for you to want her to accept your advances sometimes too. She needs you to lead, and she needs to feel that you want her because you want HER, not just sex.
