Like on 1.. do you want him to settle this loan, and take out another in a bank account in his name only, or, just move the direct debit to HIS own account, or, see evidence that he has set up a DD to transfer the right amount into that account each month, before the loan repayment comes out? And how long is left to run? If its 60 month loan for example, tahts 5 years!! And you dont want to be financially tied to him for that long.
As for 2.. do yuo want to ask him for ow's address, so you can get the ball rolling on the paperwork for the D? (amazing to see you write the words you "want" a D now, thats huge Julia, that you have got to that stage of acceptance, good for you)? I do think you should tell him you intend to D him.. if only to see the look on his face! Yeah, maybe it will ruin your evening, but then, sometimes, you cant just keep DBing expecting a different result, when all that keeps happening is more of the same? So maybe telling him you feel you may as well go ahead and proceed with a D could be a real 180!
Its also an interesting day for it.. tehres a whole mercury/mars/chiron/neptune/ pluto thing going on tommorow!!! Have you been reading Priya Kales website?(sorry, cant reemember, some people here do).
As for outfits.. you sure you havent got anything?? What about those skinny black jeans and a summery top?? Its getting warmer now...and you'll be sat down anyway! I'm just glad he agreed to meet you (he did then?)
Al xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
