Once again, Jim, you bring in the much needed 'other perspective.' But I don't think we intended to man-bash here, so much as to say that it seems in relationships there is one partner who thinks they 'try harder' than the other.
Yes, you are correct in saying that 'unromantic' behavior is not limited to just men... I guess in every relationship, one brings to the table what the other seems to lack, hence that statement, opposites attract.
My H once overheard me say to a friend of mine that he wasn't very creative romantically... and he got really, really defensive. HE thinks he's wonderfully creative. But that was part of Honey's original point in saying that he thinks I'm the one to blame, I think he's the one to blame, and you get a real big stalemate.
I don't know what to do with the romance thing. I think my H is every bit as defensive in talking about that as I had been talking about our sex life. I'm as much 'romance' starved as my H was sex starved... except that we seem to be on the road to recovery with one, and still in deep denial about the other. My H is very reluctant to talk about anything that even remotely casts him in a less than favorable light, so if you have any suggestions on how I could broach the subject without all hell breaking loose, I'd love to hear it. You, too, HoneyPot!
