Now wait just a minute, I wanted to be the pious b*tch, no fair!
Seriously, I know just how you feel about the date thing. My husband is the same way; he used to be so much better but since we have embarked on this fun journey to fix our broken sex life, the romance has gone out the winder. I say, don't let him get off the hook too easily re: the dates and romance or you will start to get resentful. If your R consists solely of YOU making the effort, it won't be long before you are no longer in the mood to much.
I understand that he is busy with his job, but I'd hazard a guess here and say that you were prolly busy with your job when you decided to step up to the plate with regards to your sex life. We all have to do things that we really don't have time for and he is not exempt from that! Give him a gentle reminder and I hope that you two get back on track soon.
Honey
P.S. I just remembered one thing from my own situation. When we first started getting our mojo back, I was very paranoid that H was not "serious" and it wasn't going to last. I had no trust in him and his words of wanting to make it better. So, consequently, everytime there was the smallest lapse in activity I would say to myself "Aha! I knew it! He was just trying to temporarily get me off his back!!" It was a very destructive way to act and think and yet I could not stop myself from doing it. He quite simply had to "prove" it to me that he was serious about this and that it was a lasting change. I know that's going to rankle you, but I am being honest here so that you can get a glimpse on what's going on inside his thick skull. These types of thoughts are killers to the everyday "nice" situations in married life. Ok, that's enough for now.
