I thought I'd respond to you here since Sooner's thread is getting to the end of his line.
Quote: Here is a thought for ya, though: I'm sure your husband thinks that YOU are not being very understanding. Meaning, sometimes it is a situation of "I'm withholding cause he's being mean" vs. "I'm being mean cause she's withholding."
There is probably a lot to this statement. We get caught in this cyclone, too. However, if I admit it out loud, I can no longer be a pious bitch, and how fun is that?
No, seriously, I think you probably hit the nail right smack dab on the head.
Quote: So whaddya think? Is it possible that you are both reacting negatively to the other and both thinking that the other has originated the negativity? Is there any way to just say, Ya know what...forget it. Let's start fresh.
This is exactly what we need to do. And of course, as things go, this morning I started my period. (sigh) I know, I know, I can do some things for him.... again.
Quote: One more thing: What does he say when you point out that you have stepped up to the plate re: the sex and he has yet to do the same re: more affection and quality time with you?
He gets very, very defensive. His idea of taking me out on a date is... hey honey, let's go do something this weekend... and then it's my job to get a sitter, arrange the what we'll do, where we'll do it and when we'll do it. He shows up, pays for our meal... and he puts it down as his date.
That doesn't really register as him taking me out on a date in my book. I don't really hold it against him, but it doesn't count as effort on his part, at least for me. It just makes me very, very sad. He used to do all sorts of neat things... now, he's busy.
But at any rate, thank you for the kick in the pants. I needed it.
