I've moved here from MLC

[AJM]

You make such fast progress, it's hard to keep up. You're asking the right questions mostly.

Keep in mind my big fear is that he still has feelings for the ex-OW and will start working on reconciling things with her even though she now has a new boyfriend and has her ex chasing her too. (Both of these guys are rich....yeah, she's that girl and my H is not rich. I'm not that girl.)

STOP! You cannot control him. You should take this as a compliment that he is choosing you over her. He looked. He saw. He likes you better. He loves you. He can't stand to be around you though.

The rest of it? Take it as it comes. I recognize a fellow analyst when I see one. Stop. You can't predict the future. You can't change the past. Live in the moment.

And yes, be a little less available. Not dark. Not gone. Not pursuing. Less available. For your sake. You need the time to work on you.

Relax. Fix you. Don't try to control or predict the situation. Take it as it comes and leave it in the past when you get the chance. Make friends. Enjoy the time away from your son and spouse. Be good to yourself. He does want you back, but not the old you. That's why he comes over for dinner. That's why he stays in contact with you even if he doesn't have to.

Be confident that he cares for you. Be confident that he wants to come back to you. Be sure that he doesn't yet know if he can or if he is willing to take the chance that things will be different.

Work on you. Forget the exOW - he has. He wishes you would. He wishes he could even more but has to work with her. He never really cared about her, he was happy that somebody was nice to him.

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Get it? It means nothing.


AJ