I may consider taking the children though I don't know whether they would come, or the reaction of my wife would be good.
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She is also trying to use her inheritance which has now been swallowed up by the credit crunch to tell me I should have signed a 'deed of consent' which basically means I would give back any monies she brought into the marriage. She thinks that because I will not give this money back, the children will suffer as she will not be able to give them the lifestyle she would want for them. Emotional blackmail, and I feel I am being beaten constantly without me really doing anything wrong.
Mark, if you haven't already done so, it's time to forever jettison the standard of "What will my WIFE think? What will she SAY? And how will her reaction make ME feel?" from your Life decision-making process, and forever replace it with:
What is the RIGHT THING TO DO in this situation? What would God Himself have me do if He were standing right here in front of me?
It's not easy, esp. for "Nice Guys" like us, but it IS possible to pretty quickly re-train yourself, and ... once you do it? IT'S DAMNED LIBERATING, and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner.
