WAW1

[markhaving probs]

Puppy,

I do not know who she is right now, and as much as I do not want to move out, I think I can help my children gain some serenity and calmness when they are with me. I am a lapsed catholic and am seriously considering going back to church to try and exorcise my own demons and try to gain some serenity in my own life, though my only catholic church is the one I got married in! I may consider taking the children though I don't know whether they would come, or the reaction of my wife would be good. On the other hand, where and what I do with the children when I have them is nothing to do with her (obviously with the children in agreement)

I am very strong on values and have instilled this to my children politeness, good manners, strong handshake (I am very into this) when they practice hand-shaking with me. I am very disturbed in the way my wife seems to want to engage in arguments when they are in earshot, again I think as Saffie said so that I feel disarmed and vulvernable because I am more concerned about them

I want to do the best for them but do not want to be undermined by my wife. She is also trying to use her inheritance which has now been swallowed up by the credit crunch to tell me I should have signed a 'deed of consent' which basically means I would give back any monies she brought into the marriage. She thinks that because I will not give this money back, the children will suffer as she will not be able to give them the lifestyle she would want for them. Emotional blackmail, and I feel I am being beaten constantly without me really doing anything wrong.