I think the reality is somewhere in the middle, myself.
This was pressure:
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But, I think I deserve to know if you're willing to work on us as a couple, or if you're just staying home for the kids.
Stay away from that if you can. That's R talk. The intimacy part after that is just letting him know how you feel, not asking him to do commit to something. But don't make that a habit because it is a fine line. At least not yet.
You let him know how you felt. Sure it was pressure, but did you notice how the two of you were able to have that conversation? Without blowing up at each other? That's progress. Is it needy? Yes of course. Don't pursue it. You asked. He answered. You let it go at that.
So let it go. Completely. Accept what you see.
He knows how you feel. Let that cook in the stew for a while. Don't beat yourself up about it any longer. You're human too and you were drinking.
That would be how I read this.
AJ
AJM..here is the reality of this board...and I'll lay this out for all of you to see..
there are very few here who post their sitches in their entirity. In other words...most people post the positive..they leave all that other stuff out..or they jump on later and "confess"
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Sure it was pressure, but did you notice how the two of you were able to have that conversation? Without blowing up at each other? That's progress.
or maybe..he just had that conversation with her because she woke him up from a sleep...or maybe..he's just waiting, biding his time, playing nice, until he drops the "big one" on her..
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So let it go. Completely.
yep..she better do that..quickly
Keep temperature checking..keep bringing up the R..keep seeing "where he is"...and it will get you D papers..
