I think you should continue to be patient. Whether you like it or not; this apartment is something that she feels she must do. Either because she's obligated by the lease or she is still working out the issues in her head; or both.
Take baby steps toward this bro..
My W moved out the first time last April and she came back home three weeks later. I was more than eager to have her back; but it was rushed. It was improperly handled by both of us, thinking that we could just immediately go back to our M without any introspection.
This time, she's been gone since September and last night; she asked me if we could start dating. I was floored. But we both agreed that the road back home for her; and the saving of the M will be a slow process. We realized that we rushed back into it too fast last year.
My point is that you have to get out and get your mind off of this sitch; it's the best chance you have at getting your M back on track when she's ready. What are you doing to make yourself be a better person and ready for the marriage, should she want to come home? You can't be the same AFWAW that you were before; you know that doesn't work.
