What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[AFWAW]

I already talked with her again. She was being hateful and spiteful. I know she doesn't understand.

On a different note, the wife called me again this morning. She started talking about my daughter but quickly segwayed into a conversation about our date and before you know it was using terms of endearment with me--knucklehead and darling. I know--focus on actions not words. The action here is that she is calling. She also asked if I would be at the gym this morning as she said she would look for me--I told her I would not but hey she wants to see me.

I am very frustrated at this point but am trying to stay focused on the positive improvements. It is difficult though.

So far:
Have gone from not talking to me at all to calling twice a day or more
Has gone from I don't love you and want a divorce to I still love you and don't want a divorce, I just need some time
We have gone out on one date and have another scheduled.

Negatives:
She seems like she's digging in for a while at her apartment with buying furniture,etc and enjoying all the ease of the situation too much.

So, the question is, How do I move this along in a positive manner without pushing and make her want to come home? I know some of it--GAL, PMA, other DB stuff. I am trying sooooo hard to be patient. I know there is a fine line with what you say and how you say it regarding interactions. I want to say and do the right things according to DB principles but have the tendancy to come off like a smart ass sometimes. This is the biggest challenge I've ever faced in my life. I honestly would rather be back in Iraq right now than have to deal with this.

So, any thoughts and/or suggestions? Or do I just need to shut up and be patient?