Your situation was mine at one point. My WAS was about the same age as yours. We were married for 8 years, together for 10. She was angry, accusing, unforgiving, vowed she had no love for me anymore, had an EA with a om, the whole nine yards. I was as 'stunned' as you, but I was also angry at what she was doing to me and our family. It really took me a long time to ditch that anger. Don't be afraid to acknowledge that anger. It's normal.
That was 3 and a half years ago. We Divorced, but it's only been over the past 6 months or so that she has come around. They'll never say they are sorry or admit to their part, but that doesn't really matter at this point. She's held out the olive branch and expressed a desire to reconcile. Unfortunately, it's to late for me, but we are friends and that's OK for both of us. Better for my kids.
I don't feel it's an ending or that I've lost my family. My relationship with my S9 and S16 are better then they were back then. My outlook and demeanor are positive and calm. I do enjoy being single and never imagined it would turn out for me as positive as it has. My advice is do what you have to do and don't try to predict the results because most likely, it won't turn out like you imagined.
Last edited by Astimegoeson; 03/25/0910:41 AM.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
