I guess that with some 300 million people in America it shouldn't be that odd when a story repeats itself. Your husbands position has similarities and the results are consistent.
I worked at a nuclear plant prior to here. My wife got a great promotion to move up here. So we discussed it and moved here. She became the higher salary in the family. The idea was I would use that opportunity to get a non shift work job at a lower salary and work my way backup the ladder. But I couldn't get any work and ran my put aside savings out. So I put out resumes in my field and got hired imediately. My current employer misled me (and no that is not an exageration) that they would be building a second plant with opportunities in a year or so. That was 6 years ago. The job I took here was below my skill level and I only took it because of the opportunitie that were to come later.
Mistake #5 - I began to vent at home to my wife. Thinking she was my wife and the person I could share my problems with. Too much negativity. Imagine someone coming home every day and complaining when you job is everything you have ever wanted. It gets old.
Lesson Learned #5 - leave the negativity at the door. never again bring it all into the house and dump it on your family. I let the job define me. I let the job put me in a state of depression! never again!
