peace- It sounds like you are doing well and getting to where you need to be. Continue creating a life that brings you joy...you deserve it.
Your H is just as much of a mess as he has been. Apparently the D wasn't the thing that pull him out of his rut...who cares...it isn't your problem anymore unless it effects your business.
This has been a long and hard road for you. You have worked so hard to understand what crisis is about and in the process you learned about yourself and all of us here. You have been such a great friend to me and so many others. Thanks so much for your wisdom and your insight. I am sure there are many happy days ahead for you.