I "get it," but I tend to get a few ZINGERS my way, not general complaints about things. I've chosen to ignore those, but when he's complaining about something, I've taken the advice and just agreed that it's probably an annoyance, etc...
Mike's brotha from anotha mutha? Whoa!
Be kind... Be very kind...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
If you notice, me Mike, and Racefan all hit this forum about the same time last year. We all helped each other get to some semblance of sanity over the course of last summer and fall. The guys adopted me into their clique and they are great guys! I wouldn't trade their friendship. Race does not post very often anymore, but when he does it is usually pertinent.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Bah. A couple of days of cake eating. Not falling off the wagon...
Keep up the good work. And good job recognizing the pattern of no sleep == cranky husband. I suspect this DB stuff is really working for you. Not that it'll get you ley'd but hey, you should really be friends before the benefits right?
I'm encouraged for you. I think you're starting to see more and more progress both in yourself and in him. You because you have better ways of dealing with his moodiness and being tired and him because he's moving through the fog more and more and starting to notice that he'd really like to be with the new you.
Keep it up.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Still there MB? I hope you're not posting because you're busy GAL'ng and walking and ML with your husband.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
AJ - Thanks for asking, but no... I think I screwed up. I'm busy getting drunk (with the 6th grade mom's!) to forget. I'll post in the am. (Don't worry, I didn't ruin anything...)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
hey, for all you know, your H could be slowly slowly trying to show you that he is ready for some intimacy. I can't wait till you feel ready to just pounce on him.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
ST, Geesh, by then, with all of your support and encouragement, I feel like I'll have to make a sex tape so you don't feel left out of the process! LOL
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
BF's H caught in affair. My friend and her BFF promptly cut the crotch out of all of his pants, boxers, etc... and delivered them to the lawn of the OW, delivered the rest of his clothing to a Salvation Army, and sold all of his antique beer signs to a new pub that's opening!) Glad I know her. She'd never let you pout and feel sorry for yourself. She's a get even kind of gal. Whoa. She told my H the story last night (at our S11's bball game). I promptly added. Gee, Carla, hope I don't ever need your assistance! H said... "Me, too. I'd be scared sh*tless!"
That was hilarious! About fell out of my chair there! LOL!! So at least he knows what's coming to him if he went that way!!
Originally Posted By: mindblank
So, last night he sent me a txt, just prior to coming to the game (we drove separate since he was leaving afterwards), saying, "I'm going to kill that dog!" NORMALLY, I would reply, "Why, what did he do now?" or try to validate his unhappy response to a situation. I completely ignored it. Later on, he asked me if I got his txt. I said I did. And, just continued on with my conversation with another mom. He asks me later if I want to know what the dog did. I said, "Well, not really. You can handle disciplining the dog, the kids, etc... just fine. You're a great Man/Dad. I don't txt you with nastiness every time an issue arises during the day with the kids, the dog, the handyman, etc..., and I'm sure you're appreciative. You used to make me nervous with stuff like that, but I've I've come to know you do a great job overall, so I'm fine without knowing the details." Looked at me like I was from Mars. Then, asked if I wanted to stop for ice cream after the game. LOL
I have to say, I am REALLY impressed with how you reacted to that! Wish I could pull that kind of stuff off on the fly! Only response he had was "Wanna go for ice cream?" That's GREAT!
ALso, I want to tell you that, overall, your sitch seems to be prgressing pretty good. I know that you may not feel that way, but from an outside perspective it is looking good! I am sure others here will agree with me on that one!
I can't wait till you feel ready to just pounce on him.