As far as the things your wife has said to you.....I said some of the very same things to my H when I was wanting to leave. She acts cold and won't talk and is mean to you b/c she is trying to get you to turn lose of her. She will continue to get meaner if you don't back off or as FIB has said.....turn her lose. Song, if you can just turn her over to God. If you can just put her in His hands and turn the entire stitch over to Him, then you will be able to find peace. Until then, you will continue to be miserable.
My H also was cold & very mean for a month as he was trying to get me to react and agree to a D. Little did he know I would not play the game back with him :-).
I like what Sandi said about turning your W over to God. I am still working on it as well... I have to turn my H over to God every day, as well as my M. There are times I feel I have turned him over completely and there are times I still struggle. But it has helped my emotional wellbeing so much! I feel so much freedom and peace when I have surrendered it all to Him.
Hope you're having a good week.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
