OK, so here I am 10 days or so later. We have seen each other virtually every day. Some touching, occasional kiss, etc. Right now it feels very "stalled" she keeps saying that she loves me but it will take time, and other words to that effect. I am beginning to think that I have made a grave error in judgement by being so available to her. I have helped her with moving, painting, etc. (all of the things that a husband normally would) but there just doesn't seem to be any spark, just a kind of detante (sp)
I am reluctant, but I think that I need to pull way back on the availability/niceness. I think that she just takes that all for granted already. She is seeing a counselor tomorrow (she wants to see separately first, then together). I now feel like I am on the rollercoaster because some days she actually says I love you, and some days (like today) she acts likes we are just friends. So now what. Start at the beginning, pull back to friendly but not available, stop the daily helpmate stuff? I am getting tired, and don't want to blow the whole deal, but it would be nice to feel like I am with someone who really wants to be with me. I also have to admit that the sex thing is starting to get to me. The last man she was with wasn't me... She talks about sex, she undresses in front of me, she took a bubble bath and asked me to wash her back, but any advances on my part have been turned away. Is she playing a game. Crap. Is it here we go again. I don't want to ruin all of the hard work, or the chance of being togehter, but I have a patience problem. Perhaps that is because I AM with her so much. Please throw any thoughts you have my way.
thanks,
I can't be the guy I was. Why would I want to. I don't want to go back to the way things were. That's what got me here.
