Thanks! for responding. First, you are right to pick up on his feeling unimportant to me and our life - he's wrong and misguided on that one because of his problems. Since I have met him, my life has been consumed by him because he demands that constant attention. He does not feel good about himself because he has made a lot of bad choices which I think he regrets and can't take back.
Living with me and the kids reminds him of those bad choices. I really do see his side of things from his perspective as I have listened to it for years - problem is he has never listened to my perspective or my kids' perspective.
I only ask for the male perspective in case I am missing something like - does he really want a D? why he is waffling for so long - why can't he make his mind up? He has asked for a D since we M. I think he regrets the M. Where does that leave him? me? the M? in limbo until things go his way? Like that will ever happen? is he waiting for someone else to come along?
