Are you a cop? How 'bout a Judge? Maybe an accountant? You are just so black and white sometimes and I laugh because I see myself. I'm getting a little grayer though. Have you thought about going to IC for you and then pulling your wife in later. I know you think SHE should go...but maybe the way to get her there is to go first yourself.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."