I would be interested in finding out why your daughter is suddenly interested in going to live with Mom. You don't want her to stay with you out of guilt, either. I'd just be interested to know her reasoning behind it. I don't wonder if she is somehow disappointed that you are letting wife walk all over you. I am NOT saying you are...but to your daughter you might appear to be. She sees that when your wife wants you around, you go and when she doesn't you get pushed to the side. Maybe your daughter is tired of picking up the pieces?? Not sure. Motley Crue..."Girl, don't go away mad...girl, just go away!!" It reminds me of that song, all of our stitches.
I wish I had the answers to give you, Bub. My stitch occupies my time, too. But I am finally to the point that I DON'T CARE. I love him, and I want the marriage to be right, but he doesn't want the marriage to be right. So even if he decides to try to make this work, there is no guarantee. He felt like he had to change into what I wanted. Well, yeah, both of us did, to an extent. My deal was that he was never willing to grow/change. He is still not. So if this is what it's gonna be, then good riddance! But that is HIM walking away from the marriage, not ME.
Right now, I think it's hard for you because you still partly want your old marriage back. That's not gonna happen, and you shouldn't WANT it to happen. You are sad maybe because you know how the marriage COULD be, like I do. But that doesn't mean that our spouses are willing to do their part to make the marriage better. They haven't learned anything from this little episode. Yet. Maybe they will. But WE...YOU AND I...will be better for it, whether they are or not and THAT will make all the difference in the world. In two years...in five years, you will look back and say..yeah, that period of my life sucked...but I am a better person FOR it NOW, EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T REALIZE IT THEN!!
((((hugs))))
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
