I do know that he suffers from a lot of guilt for many choices in his life and that slants his viewpoint quite a bit. Hasn't quite figured out that he gets to have some control in his life when he takes responsibility.
Silva,
I love how protective you are of me. I need that in my life right now. My feelings? a long time ago I saw this pattern where people usually either go in one direction or the other. I decided then I wasn't comfortable with either and developed a third one - I found I can survive any feeling or sitch if I remember to look at it through loving eyes - I just think to myself," love would respond in what way to this sitch" and I find my answer. That is why I choose not to respond. I knew if I tried we would argue and lose perspective. I know he will call again - and I am considering my response. I know I can't give him what he wants right now - its not about me. He will have to figure that one out in IC.
