I think to have three children at age 22 is a lot for her to handle. I realize that the two oldest are yours, but didn't you say that they lived with you? Anyway, I can understand all of your feelings about the outcome of the R and certainly about any more counseling sessions. I think that is fruitless without her cooperation. She probably does need professional evaluation. In all honesty, I can't help but feel that she will go through with the D. However, if you wait around for her to get through this mess she is in and some time to mature and maybe heal, perhaps then she would be ready to approach you to see how you would feel about seeing her again. It has happened before. It would be very hard, probably, for her to do. It takes a lot of guts to do that! If you think you could ever love this girl in the future after she has straighten her life out......please be careful about saying words that you will regret later. Like I said, I feel that I can understand what you are saying b/c I probably would be the same way......but just wanted to warn you about burning all your bridges behind you.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
