That is very true. I feel like it is useless to talk to him at this point.
Well, if you mean relationship or reality "talk," then your right. It is useless right now. If he does want to see the kids or wants to speak with them on the phone that isn't useless. Other than that just keep it "light."
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When he started being ugly just to make me mad I should have immediately said bye and gotten off the phone. He said some things that were intended just to try to hurt me, and I shouldn't have listened.
Yep, calmly say "it is not okay for you to treat me this way." Goodbye.
As for all that other crap he said. You got it right. Blah blah blah. Don't believe any of that.
It is extremely difficult, but you have to not expect much from him right now. Sounds like he is caught up in fantasy land. It is very sad and selfish that he is not seeing his children.
You have to be strong right now and be there from them like never before.
I know. Thanks for the input. I have no desire to talk about relationships, affairs, or anything else with him. I don't want him. Our kids do though. I will be glad to talk to him about the kids or anything related to that. He knows my door is always open for that.
How are you? Both of my kids wiped out early today. We didn't get home from that game last night until about 9. Still not sure why they plan 7:45 ballgames for 8 year olds. LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
It really sucks about him not seeing the kids. I can't relate much to that. It happens here. Have you read any of the mlc resources to kind of give you an idea what may be happening with him?
I know you have said that you have had trouble with him telling lies for a while now but he has never been this way as far as the kids go right?
You should do some reading to give you a better understanding about the craziness and how to deal with it.
Oh, my son and I will be up for that. I'll have to tell him. I can never eat a crab the same way! LOL
No, he hasn't been like this with the kids. He HAS always worked lots of hours just because that's what his industry requires.I have always been there for them all of the time, and he was there when he could. I always saw him as a loving dad up until close to the end. I believe he was/is suffering from some type of depression and he had gotten pretty short/grumpy with them before we split. I have read some MLC stuff, could read more. As you can probably guess I read a lot due to my nerd tendencies...
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
You seem like you are a great dad to your kids. Seeing you and some of the others on here helps keep in perspective for me that there are plenty of men that are NOT like him. I will not be the old crazy cat lady all alone because I have turned bitter toward men!! LOL
You know it really bothers me not knowing WHY he is ignoring his kids. How could you? Is it because he has chosen this girl over them? I just don't get it. I would die for my kids without a second thought, and he doesn't seem to give a rip.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
You really should. It will give you a much better idea of the whats or wtf's and why's. I know how much it hurts to have them act this way, but if you have a good understanding of what is really going on perhaps you can begin to seperate the person from the behavior.
Depression is the driving force of this craziness and it is an illness. It helps to learn about that too. It might clear things up a bit.
I will not be the old crazy cat lady all alone because I have turned bitter toward men!! LOL
LMAO!!!
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You know it really bothers me not knowing WHY he is ignoring his kids. How could you? Is it because he has chosen this girl over them? I just don't get it. I would die for my kids without a second thought, and he doesn't seem to give a rip.
It goes with the territory. Their minds are focused on what makes them feel good right at the moment. Kind of like someone who is drowning or an addict needing a fix. You don't want to know what is going on upstairs. Look at it this way, it would take an awful lot to make him not want to see his kids right?
