Why yes I am....amused that is...now a blue dog that uses a toilet LOL!
Soconfused, my sitch is in newcomers "rough and ugly four month".
My life is much like your user name My biggest problem is that I don't think have the will or patience to try. It is easier to move on but hard on the heart - If you know what I mean.
I do come here quite a bit to gleam the advice others give to people. You guys make this an entertaining place
Afternoon, or evening I guess for you guys that are ahead of me. The game was good last night. S team won by quite a bit. He had some good hits and made some good plays. Unfortunately, I didn't have as much fun as I should have, because I sat there and let my anger get the best of me. H told S that he would be there, and S asked me on the way. I told him I didn't know, he may be working. Of course, S wanted him to show. Of course, he didn't. It kills me inside to see my kids disapointed and abandoned by their dad. They haven't seen him in over 2 weeks. I have 2 of the best, smartest, most awesome kids you could ever hope for and this sorry excuse for a "man" is letting them down day after day. I see the hurt in their eyes. I try to answer their questions. I try to clean up this mess he is making with my kids. I cry at night over my kid's pain. What does he do?
Okay, enough wallowing. Man, it's hard.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Be easier if they were dead, huh? I mean easier to explain. Dad's not coming home because well a building fell on him at least it was quick.
Your a good mom, right now he is a horrible dad. Aren't you glad that one of you is around for them? Aren't you glad that he isn't around right now including the OW with them?
It is hard So. And it is not fair, there I said it. But nothing is fair. You are doing well though.
Answer their questions without blaming him...your children will make their own conclsuions, and you don't want to sway them in that, if you don't they will form better conclusions ones closer to the truth without you looking bad.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Thanks Jack. It sucks, and I'm trying to make the best of it. I posted on Trapt's thread about the stupid convo I got sucked into with him last night (not Trapt, H ).
I should have been on with you guys laughing and having fun rather than trying to speak human to the piece of whatever he has become. At least that brings me up, not down.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I should have been on with you guys laughing and having fun rather than trying to speak human to the piece of whatever he has become. At least that brings me up, not down.
Having fun is one thing, but your still going to have a connection with him no matter what. Well you have to beautiful connections with him. It's selfish and it sucks, but you have to be the bigger person and be there for your kids while he is checked out.
That is very true. I feel like it is useless to talk to him at this point. We came home, kids had their baths, and went to bed and then I wasted my time being on the phone arguing with him.
Yes Jack, I did allow myself to get into that conversation.
When he started being ugly just to make me mad I should have immediately said bye and gotten off the phone. He said some things that were intended just to try to hurt me, and I shouldn't have listened. He told me OW (the womanchild he's seeing) told him he needs to see the kids more, and that SHE wants to spend time with them. He also said that he is going to move her in with him soon, and that as soon as our divorce is final he will put a ring on her finger and marry her.
The thought of our children being around their father with his freaking 19 year old girl makes me sick to my stomach. That is why he said those things.
He then called me back like an hour later and said some blah,blah,blah, I do love you, I just said that stuff to hurt you, I will not move her in with me, blah,blah. He says he just let his "temper" talk. The funny thing is I didn't say anything that should have made him so mad. I just wanted him to not ignore his kids.
Oh my gosh if it wasn't for my kids, I just wish he would take her and get the h*ll out of here and leave me alone to go on with my life. However, just like Trapt said, we are connected for life through our two children.
I have got to not let this affect me. I slept about 3 hours last night because of this crap. I have been doing really well until that episode. I've actually been sleeping better than when we were together.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
My biggest problem is that I don't think have the will or patience to try. It is easier to move on but hard on the heart - If you know what I mean.