Hi, thanks to Sara for starting this thread. Wdid and Sandi - can you guys explain how you went about getting your feelings to come back? My H semi-made the decision to work on "us" a few months ago, but he had that loving towards a relative feeling, no romance and no passion towards me (Oh God how much that hurts!!). I tried waiting it out to see if those feelings could come back for him, but it seemed like the more time that went on, the further apart we were becoming. He'd sleep in the same bed with me and we'd have no physical contact. I mean I would snuggle up to him and he'd make sure his body was touching mine, but he would not put his hands on me. No hugging, no kissing, of course no S. I finally told him I could not go on like that anymore and we've since separated again. It just hurt too much to know he wasn't returning my feelings at all.
I know he's been waiting for the feelings to just "come back." He felt that if we spent time together (it was just as a family, not as a couple though), then he would feel passionate and romantic towards me again and then have those loving actions actions towards me. I don't think it works that way when a couple has had 20 years together and have been through so much crap. So how does it work and how do you get to feeling romantic towards your Hs again? How in the world do you fall back in love with your spouse who you have drifted away from?
