Divorce looming #6

[K4D]

No. Stupid me gave the key to my W when I left. But my drivers license has that address on there. I just cannot focus today.

I'm so tired of this.

Kevin

[jaguilar]

You might want to check but I think you should be able to move back with no problems. Other than she might move out like ine did but then we're sharing custody of the children. I know how you feel. When I moved out, I was afraid to move back once the house issue was resolved. It felt good to be back in the house. Think about it...

[MrBond]

"And then this bill and she won't let me come home to help pay off this bill and get a job. Its just getting to me today."

WTH, you are an adult. Figure out a way to go home and get your bill paid. It's your responsibility to get it paid so it doesn't affect your credit. You can't blame her for that. Or pay it off up there.

You've got to stop playing the role of victim. You're putting yourself in the position you are in. We all do that from time to time. It's called being depressed. It'll take time to get over, so let it out. Yell, cry, hit the sofa, something to let it out so you can clear your head.

I think you just need to get out of the house, off the computer and walk around.

[jaguilar]

Stuck is right. I'm in the same boat as you Kevin. Everyone keeps telling me to put my foot down, for years they have been saying that. And today, I'm still trying to say and do all the right things.

We've got to break that mold.

[K4D]

I asked my W if there were any business analyst positions opened at where she works. She said there were 2. I said can I post for them. She said no that I don't have the skills. I said how do you know. She said they want her. Literally. I said ok. But there are 2 positions open. Its the same company that originally came to me for the job I passed onto her.

She said she isn't willing to stake her reputation on me. I told her I won't be bothering her I just need to get my foot in the door. I asked if I can have the contact name and she said she will give it to me. She also said she does not want me working on the same floor or in the same building as her. Again I said I would leave her alone and I just want to build my own reputation as a BA.

I told her it would help me get going, let me get a place, and get started with my life back on track. The company is a big company. Its not like we would have to have any interaction together. Geez, I gave the job to her and now she won't return the favor to get us both up and going. Wow. We have worked for the same company before and did great. Its not a big deal.

I guess I will see what she says.

Kevin

[MrBond]

Kevin,

I really don't think you're listening to anyone's advice. You still put yourself out there to get beaten up by your W. I think you need another 25mlc 2x4.

[K4D]

Her final words were...

i am not your resource
now SHUT UP!
d*mn

Kevin

[K4D]

Just worried about getting a job Stuck. I am worrying to much these days.

Kevin

[jaguilar]

Kevin,

We know you're worried about getting the job but do you see what you're writing?

You're trying to get a job where she works. You're still using her as a resource. For one day, don't try to practice your interview with her. Don't use her as a resource to see if you're capable of a certain position. Don't email, text or call her. I can see where you may be bouncing interview ideas off of her or role playing the interview and she could be throwing you off on purpose to make this whole process as hard as can be for you.

Let's try this for one day...starting now.

[K4D]

Ya.

Kevin