In terms of the C, you have to ask yourself. Has any of it done any good in terms of having her work on your M? So far the answer's been no. She contributes when she needs to, but hasn't really thought of the M in terms of herself. It's up to you to continue, but I wouldn't. She should see her own C.
"I see your point about the hug. I wasn't going to say anything but put that in there to put something positive out there"
Just shows your neediness.
"I'm trying to get her to be part of the "decision" making process."
Tread lightly here. There is no decision making process. She made the decision and is waiting for you to agree to what she wants. The thing is you have to try and change her attitude to see that what she wants is the M.
Write down what you want in terms of the separation and go from there. You say you're a negotiator, well think of her as someone doing a hostile takeover. Do what's right for you and your kids. Take your focus off her and her needs.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
