Ok check this out, is loving detachment like this scenerio:
Let's call my wife cleopatra, do I now relate to cleopatra as I would any other female friend. . . .
Obviously this would be a female friend that i am atracted to and would like to develop a relationship with . . .
That would not be my recommendation. My suggestion would be to treat her like you would a roommate, or the mailman -- kind, courteous, civil . . . no more.
By definition, someone with whom you want to have a relationship, you PURSUE, and I think you're setting yourself up for pursuing behavior. You don't "detach" from someone you're trying to have a relationship with!
I'd welcome dburt's take on this, but that would be my recommendation.
