Ok check this out, is loving detachment like this scenerio:
Let's call my wife cleopatra, do I now relate to cleopatra as I would any other female friend. Another words being there to listen when needed. Being there to have fun with if she is interested in doing something fun. Just generally developing a relationship on that kind of level, where if they don't want to talk right now or even for a week or so, I would just say to myself, oh well cleopatra is just doing here own thing right now and doeasn't want to talk or do anything with me right now. So whatever. Obviously this would be a female friend that i am atracted to and would like to develop a relationship with, but if it doesn't work out then it just wasn't ment to be?
If I look at it that way it would be almost exactly how our relationship started.
I had just turned twenty one the month before I ment her. She came to the town we currently live in to stay with a friend that lived next door to me and my 2.5yr older brother in some apts. So we met at a partying type situation where we just sort of talked a little. I thought she was cute, but at the time I had made apersonal decision as to not put the moves on any girls, I just was never good at that. i decided to just be myself and relax, buit flirt a little.
It's funny because my brother was putting the moves on her as well but in a more forward way, he was we called way back then, scamming on her. Yet I wound up with her and he didn't.
She later told me that what had initially attracted her to me was the fact that I seemed sweet and very gentlmen like. As well as the fact that I wasn't giving her the full court press my brother was. I told her then that I had decided for myself that if it works out with her that would be great, but if it didn't then i guess it just was like all the other girls and it just wasn't ment to be.
So should I start treating my situation like that now and take on that same mind frame, cuz it seems like that's what you are all saying.
