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Yeah, I would take mine back, too, but I've gotten a bit less anxious as the months have dragged on. She would have to show that she has changed a bit, too. Honestly, if you met your W in a bar right now, would you want to date her?


HELL YES, I would take mine back.

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I must not be as detached as I thought


I'm with you brother, just put up a good front with her. You can be weak as hell when she can't see it, I know I am. I'm getting stronger but as everyone says, it will take some time and the more I act strong, the stronger I'll become(in theory, that is).

I can't really complain about my W spending money as it is her money and she doesn't have access to mine. Having said that, I would still pay for her expenses to have her back. Yes, I love her that much. I have learned in a few short months that I have been concetrating on all the wrong stuff for years and hope and pray that I will have the opportunity to concetrate on the right things with my wife. I am absolutely misearable without her. I have done some fun things without her and I know I'm not supposed to rely on someone else to make me happy but I've been with her for 15 years and I'm conditioned to her. Let's put it this way, I would rather have fun with her than have fun without her.

I hope that this DBing pays off as I want her to be with me more than I want to be with her. I think the opposite is true though. I think she wanted me more before. Ugggghhhh, I feel so foolish.


M-41
ex-W-40
Together--17 years
SS-20
D-14
Bomb--2 Feb 09
WAW--6 Feb 09
Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!!
ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!!
Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!