Need Help handling affair thats still going on

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K
Im not sure about the letter
great that H is in therapy..if anything might help these cocnfused mlcers it is that
If you have another session with DB coach ask her what she thinks
Your H is open with you ..about his thoughts and the A that is good
I like your idea of telling H you and he cant be freinds during his A-if he chooses her


MY XH was not honest with me about his affair..I just found out about it in december..he lied to me about his living arrangements probably to maintain the nice friendship we had

If your H decides to seperate bank accounts, I would also do something to protect your house and any other assets you have together..
and yourself from any credit card debt

My H has piled up unbelievable debt since leaving..
the ow they pick usually do not moniter any spending like we would and they encourage H to spend everything
Unfortunately if he is in MLC, there is little rationality for their choices
MY XH Gave up everyhing he had in these 2 years and he literally walks away a D man with nothing except OW
and the riht to visit his kids every other weekend
in ones logical mind, one would think is he crazy?
especially when the Wife has done everything possible to let her MLCer know the M will be better, the DB, validating them
for many of these H, it just doesnt work
at least not immediately although some have come back many of them have to Go to expore the freedom and their youth
many of them pick younger OW
How old is your H?
You are doing everything right
for now, create the friendship and let your H see what he has in you
and take care of your self
peace