PortlandDad, I hear you loud and clear. If she doesn't want a divorce then why is she getting into debt? I mean, I'll pay for it if she wants to move back but come on. Wouldn't an expensive vacation be more sensible and more fun?
It sounds like your wife doesn't know what she wants either. I can only hope that both of them hit rock bottom quickly, wake up one morning and say to themselves, WTF am I doing, I need to get my ass back home. Oh crap, what if my husband won't take me back? Yeah right, now I'm dreaming. I would take mine back in a sec at this point. The problem is, she doesn't want to and I fear that as more time passes she will want to less and less. CRAP!!!!!!
Not the way to feel, the more time passes, the more likely she will have that WTF moment. Its kinda zinlike, the less you want something the more likely it will come to you. Again, start doing things with your daughter without her.
By the way is there another man involved, that can derail things.
