Actually, I kinda liked the poem--interestingly, minus the stanza you pointed out. I took it more as a statement of wanting to know the real person in someone else, and conversely being willing to share the things we struggle with rather than providing simple answers.
I do see you point, tho, especially in that stanza. As a recent victim of two very narcissistic people who very virtuously "lived into their own honesty" while sacrificing those they had no business sacrificing--there must be more to this life than self-actualization. Or perhaps, there must be more to self-actualizing (and becoming who God intended for us to be) than purely narcissistic pursuits.
But then, that's just my opinion.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012