Divorce looming #6

[Sara]

I live in New Tampa, so I go to the Panera on BB Downs. We could meet there.

[K4D]

Ok, thats cool. I am in Lutz.

Let me know when a good time would be. I am pretty much free all the time.

Kevin

[K4D]

I found out today that my coverage for the kids counseling is no longer being covered. Apparently that ended Feb 2nd. They said that only the first 3 visits are covered and the rest fall under my medical.

However, when I originally talked to them, they said that the 30 visits that had been approved would be covered even after I was terminated. Now they are saying otherwise. And of course the person I talked to didn't notate our conversation. So now we have this nice big bill to pay.

So I suggested to W why don't I come home, stay in another room, we use the money alloted that I have been using to start paying off the debt and I get a job and move out.

Of course she said no. She can't. UGG!!!

I just want to tell her that I live there to and have a right to come home and get a job. But she is fighting me tooth and nail on this. Why is that such an issue?

UGGGGGGGGGG.

Kevin

[spellfire]

Remind me whose house it is again?

[K4D]

Its her mom and stepdads house. I could go home. But they could have me evicted in 30 days.

Kevin

[K4D]

I don't know how to make her not see me as the bad guy. Thats what I am struggling with. She really does view me as the bad guy.

Kevin

[MrBond]

I understand it's her house and all, but talk about a total lack of compassion. I can see why she feels that way though. Kevin, you've got to stop being so clingy to her so that she'll bend a little. She's still treating you like a child. Plan your life as if she is not involved. As if she didn't exist. What would you do.

Or see if you can gather some money to rent someplace for now. At least you'll be able to see your kids on your own.

Have you scrapped your plans for studying? Like 25mlc says, you've got to stick to a plan.

[K4D]

No. I haven't scrapped them. I am just having a tough time focusing today. I think blowing that interview yesterday really affected me today. And then this bill and she won't let me come home to help pay off this bill and get a job. Its just getting to me today.

It really gets to me that I can't reason with her. I have always been able to reason with her in the past and now I can't reason with her on anything at all.

She is so against me at every level. And I am not against her.

But anything I say or do comes off as selflove to her. My friend pointed out that generally when someone accuses you of something its because they see that very same thing inside them.

And I think that is true. Right now what she is doing is self love. So she accuses me of it for wanting our marriage to be fixed and wanting to be back with my kids and her.

It isn't rational.

[K4D]

I just wish she would stop being against me.

Kevin

[jaguilar]

Do you have a key to the house? I know you said it was her mom and step-dad's house. But if you can prove residence, drive up with the shriff's department and go home.

Back to hanging out with woman - since I got separated a good friend of mine is a female. When I can we go out to eat and have a few beers...nothing romantic. but the other night, I had some friends over for a BBQ. I noticed that after 11PM, I was the only guy with 6 ladies there. Yea a few of them are attractive but they know my story, I see them as sisters. But then I read a thread DrH, sorry can't remember who wrote the DB commandments, and in it they mentioned not to hang out with the opposite sex.

Hell it's been a while since I've been with my wife. If I see a nice girl on TV, I'll chaneg the channel. But is it that bad if you hang out with woman as friends. I think it's kinda funny.

LOL - my wife told me once that she could have male friends but I couldn't have female friends - hhhhmmmm