WAH#3

[AJM]

I see that differently. I see him saying that he has not felt important in your life. Like he was relegated to the backstage while you focused on other things.

I take it that you may not have seen it that way though. You may not have had thoughts like, "I'm going to focus on something other than husband - that'll show him where he stands."

I take it that he resents your focus on the kids because he wants your time. Your attention. He wants to be made to feel important to you. He may not and does not even know that himself.

Don't ask me why I can say that, please.

I think he really just wanted your kids out because he felt like they came between you two. Like he was an outsider in his own home.

Suggestion? You have very little to lose at this point. I can tell you that men who want a divorce would rarely say anything about it being in the future. They tend to show up with the papers in their hands when you least expect it. Consider making him feel important. I know that may not be what he wants right now, but try it. Try asking him why he wants the kids gone? Why is that important to him? Perhaps you didn't see why it was important to him (you assumed you knew) before and you wouldn't want to make that mistake in your next relationship, right?

I think he really wants to feel like he's an important part of your life. A priority. His way of feeling that way is what you are trying to discover.

Remember that it's never too late to reset. You both have baggage, but it may be time to find out what his perspective is. From him. I know you think the same thing because you keep asking about men's perspective.

My thoughts. My prayers are with you Kassie. It's not over. You have to believe.

AJ