Newly "in-process" divorced CA resident here..... "Victim" of the WAW syndrome. Did not know how blind I could be as well as nonchalant about the silence or lack of complaints and "nagging" just recently. Thought it was a matter of her focusing on friends and the internet more than her spouse and twin sons. The signs of "cheating" definitely were there, but I believe that the "perfume", "working out" and "styles of clothing I've never seen her purchase before" are just part of the mid-life crisis and her attempt at independence and not cheating. It definitely is hurtful when you try to reason or change the WAW's mind or even last ditch efforts to have her try marriage counseling, but she's adamant with her claims that "I don't love you anymore" and "the feelings are totally gone".....
Now I know what the situation is and although I'm two days away from moving out of the home, I have my work cut out for me to seriously change by seeking marriage counseling, grief counseling, anger management and changing my self image inside and out.
Hopefully in the future as I maintain my responsibilities as father and daddy to our teenaged twin boys, that she'll see that I'm making an effort to change and we'll be better friends/acquaintences or even mates once more..... Thanks for listening!
