Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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Reading through DR again. Getting new inspiration and ideas of 180's. Feeling able to deal with W moods. She keeps staying out late and then is really crabby in the morning. I am also working on not trying to figure out or imagine where she was when she stayed out. It doesn't matter one way or the other so I need to stop beating myself over the head with it.

Re-reading has reminded me what giving her space means. I had really forgotten how important that was and I should not be pushing to much for friendship as much as letting her have space and let her come to me when she wants. Don't ask to spend time, don't hang around hoping for a conversation to start. Just go about my business and be available when opportunities arise. I am trying to think of a to do list for every night and every morning so I have a plan of what I'm going to do. Then I don't wander around aimlessly. It isn't a must get done list but a can get done list so if she wants to talk I can take the time. Or if the kids need something I can take the time.

I am going to church this Sunday also. I went with my friend 3 weeks ago and every Sunday I said I would go but something got in the way. I really want to go this week. I need to tap back into a good spiritual connection and I would like to become part of a new supportive spiritual community. Maybe this church won't be it but it's worth looking for.

So getting focuses on the GAL's.

Going out with a friend at least once a week (coffee with M this Thursday night)
Getting iron infusions for Iron deficiency
Ears pierced and new fancy earrings
Stopped biting nails and getting manicures every other week
Going to Therapist every week
Going to Chiropracter twice a week
Do hair and makeup every day
Excercise every morning on treadmill
Talking to friends and family a lot for support

I do need to back off talking about the D and R with friends and family. They are all concerned about me and want to help but I am better off if I tell them I love their support but don't want to talk about it all the time. Just call and make me laugh and feel good and loved.

Goals for this week
- Do my own thing at home
- Don't react to what W says or does
- Distract myself so I don't think about it all day long
- Don't call or txt during the day
- Find ways to show appreciation