DB is all about "doing what works, and throwing out what doesn't." I dunno, maybe it's just me, but I MIGHT be able to go along with the "go along to get along" strategy, IF it were working -- for the sake of the kids. But I don't see the appeasement strategy lessening her outbursts any ... is it?
I also think it's damaging to the respect she feels for you, and women tie "respect" VERY closely with "love."
To me, it would depend on whether or not I was still trying to save my marriage or not (are you???) or if I was just trying to peaceably get thru the next few months, and make it the easiest possible on the kids (similar to Mules' situation).
