One of the issues that has been contentious between me and my wife over the years was that of her close relationships with other guys. I have always felt like she got a little to close to them. I will say that part of this was insecurities on my part having been cheated on in the past before I met my W and got married. Its led to numerous disagreements in the past. Infact, that was what the argument was about the night she dropped the bomb on me.
I definitely had trust issues with her being with other guys. And low and behold, now she really is with another guy. But I know that it stemmed from our marriage issues.
So I have always tried to distance myself from other close female relationships because of my own insecurities with my W. But I guess now I am seeing that its ok as long as their is a line drawn. And I definitely draw that line.
And no, even if I went out and had a few drinks, I still wouldn't be interested in having anything to do with this friend of mine or anyone else for that matter.
Its strictly a friend thing. I am willing and even happy to be friends. Nothing more.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
