You know what? I agree. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there for possible rejection, praise or nothing. It's exciting and I bet you felt like you "did something!"
That's why I broke the rule, sort of and asked my H if he wanted to be with ex-OW, if he still wanted to pursue her. And for me, I got the answer I wanted, which is no, "but she and I have to be civil, we work together." I get that and agree. And he also mentioned when he was pursuing her, we (H and me) were at a different place in our relationship. I thought that was good too. He could have said, as he used to, "It doesn't matter because we are done." And if we are done, he's right, he doesn't have to answer my questions or even care, but I'm hoping he answered and mentioned the time frame when this all happened with him and ex-OW from his EA we were in a difference place because he does still care what I think because he's confused and not sure what he wants for our future. But to be honest there have been more moments lately when I'm thinking "Screw this. I can do better. I deserve better." I honestly believe if it weren't for our S, I would probably be gone. I think you are doing well. And keep in mind how she's feeling about her mother. When my father was recovering and we weren't sure of the outcome, I was a bit much to deal with. I was very sensitive and had the hardest time trying to concentrate.
