Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[kjensen]

My H and were talking and texting yesterday. His biggest fear right now is that he'll end up alone (without me or the OW) and poor. He really thinks this will happen. He feels like a divorce between is us mapped out, inevitable. So despite my repeatedly telling him, that I can see a more positive, healthier future relationship/marriage to him- he cannot see that.
I wrote a letter asking him to try imagining a future for us, starting fresh, just to see if he could perhaps get past all of the negative filters he's looking through right now. In the letter I shared that if he chose the OW I couldn't see being friends with him, that I felt he would have two families and he and I would lead separate lives that had to be coordinated for the kids. I shared all the things I'd worked on on my own that would definitely create a different type of funtioning between us. Shared my happier/healthier vision of our future marriage after some hard work togetherfirst (and conuing work going forward). I suggested he work with his therapist to figure out his needs/wants, goals for his future before he made a major decision. Lastly I said I am his friend, I supported him and cared for him.. Now, do I give him this letter, or should I just go forward acting "as if" I am already that happy friend/spouse?