Alright. So it may have started off as a mistake, but I needed one answer post all these stupid emails. Today I asked H if he wanted to be with this girl. And before he could start to answer I said "Don't get your panties in a wade of spin into a tizzy. I just want to know and you can be honest because that will start a new chapter in our lives where we only have a son between us and nothing else. I'll step way back out of your life and the only connection will be S and the house hold bills. If you want to be with her, let me know." He says "Ok, why are you asking this now, this morning?" I said "Because my gut tells me you two were talking again starting bright and early Monday morning. I think you want to get back into her good graces. I think that you may still want to be with her." He said "No. There was a time when I did. There was a time when I was pursuing her, as you call it. Today, I do not. And for the record, I'm not trying to get back into her good graces, she's trying to play nice with me. And honestly W, she and I have to work together in close proximity. So we do need to get along. And that's really all I'm concerned with. I don't want to feel awkward some place I spend 8 hours a day in." I said OK and he added "When this was all happening, you and I were in a different place and we (me and H) both had different feeling about each other. No, W, I'm not pursuing anyone, this is all done and over for me. I'm not even sure I want to be friends with her." So, I said wonderful, thanks for answering that for me. Then I told him my plans for the evening if he wanted to see S he's going to have to work around my schedule, which I didn't say in so many words, but I want to be able to let him and S see each other whenever possible. I don't want to ever be accused of not allowing them to see each other. This is all so confusing.