Right now my wife says she doesn't miss me when I was gone with the boys the past weekend (nor did she the last time I was traveling for business for a week)
If she doesn't miss me, then how does that help?
How do I continue to show her how I've changed?
'Miss' might be the wrong reaction to hope for. You 'miss' somebody that has died or moved so far away that your chances of visiting them only come every few years.
You have kids together, your going to see each other often. She's not going to 'miss' you in the sense your looking for.
Your opportunity comes when you personally break out of that married identity you've been broadcasting to the world for so long. I can see it in your post. Your so predictable, it's boring. Don't take this personal, but consider you loose part of yourself when your married. It's that part she found attractive in the first place and that's the part she can 'miss' if she could see it again.
Does that make sense to you? It took me a while to rediscover it. The ex now missis it. She's the pursuer now, but it's to late for her in my case. Many on here can probably tell you the same thing. There are some who've successfully attracted their spouses/ex spouses back only to find that dbing was more beneficial to them personally than their marriage. I don't think the authors had that concept in mind from the beginning, but it's definitely a by-product. If you can understand this concept early on, you have a good chance at success.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
