Divorce looming #6

[K4D]

Its 2am. I should be sleeping. I have a friend I worked with who calls me just about every night to talk. She lives in Dallas. Its nice to have that company. She has a boyfriend in Mexico that she hasn't seen in 3 years because he can't get back over here. She is thinking about ending it with him. But we talk alot. She got a degree in psychology and has given me alot of the same advice yall have.

She tells me it will probably be a year before me and W start really looking at friendship again. She doesn't see this D not going through. She breifly met my W one time at my SIL's softball game because she also plays softball in the same league.

She is a good friend. We had gone to lunch and dinner a few times towards the end before I headed to Tampa. I just needed a friend to hang out with since my W was never there with me anymore and she would ask me if I wanted to get together and do stuff.

But there is nothing going on with me and her. I think we just both became friends because neither of us has our other at home.

I'm not at all attracted to her before anyone gets any ideas. She is just a very nice person whom I became friends with at work.

I'm not sure why she latched onto me as such a close friend. But its good to have friends. She has invited me to lunch, dinner, her place to watch a movie and to go out dancing as friends. When I say dancing, I don't mean a night club, I mean a dance studio where their is organized west coast swing dancing going on.

Sometimes I have wondered why. But I think she just really needs a friend to. She knows I am 100% committed to my W.

So its just a friendship thing. She lives alone and has a dog that she takes everywhere.

She is just a really nice person who I think gets lonely to.

So let me ask this. Is it wrong to have a female friend that is basically single? I sometimes struggle with even being friends with her even though I am not crossing any boundaries and have been 100% up front about where I stand with my W. I'm also not the least bit attracted to her. She just seems to at least care about me as a friend and knows I am having a tough time with all of this.

What are yalls thoughts on the issue? Is it ok to have a female friend or not?

Kevin