It is too bad that the hearing couldn't have been regarding the mortgage which is really pressing right now. Now another time will need to be set and another delay has been made. They pay these people because they are supposed to do all this work but Karen, they do not help you navigate everything. I felt totally alone trying to figure it all out.
They can speak legaleze but that is about it. I would sit down, look at everything that still needs done, prioritize it and get it to your L so you can be done with this mess.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sorry NCB, I disagree. Sometimes why not be the bigger person, not for him but for your own well being. If you felt you made a mistake and jumped the gun, why not say sorry. It didn't cost a thing. I think sometimes if we do what's right, even if our spouses don't accpet it, the good will come back to us. May not be from you spouse, but it will come back. No 2x4s at all Karen. Actually I applaud you, even with his bad reaction, good job on taking the higher ground.
Long day today. Dentist, a little hsing, then the L's and my job and then my volunteer work, dropped the kids off, and went to rehearsal.
I had a little meltdown at the dentist office. She was saying I need to pay over $400 for a procedure, which of course I don't have at this point. I actually cried. She is friends and knows my sitch, and she went through a 4 year divorce (and now is happily remarried btw)!!! She was very nice and understanding about my tears.
Something in me just snapped. Between yesterday's phone call where H acted like his usual self, and then today, I just am done. I went to the L's office, and told the secretary (L was in with other client) that I wanted to file for mediation asap. H is happy with the low amount I got at the initial hearing so I'm thinking he'll try to drag this out for a while b/c he's happy with everything at this point. I'm ready to get this over with though. Karen
I've just caught up in your sitch after been away for a bit. I see that you've had your ups and downs. Looks like your ups have been your jobs and your walking and singing so definitely keep those up as they are giving you self-esteem and endorphin rushes.
Confrontations with H is dragging you down. He is got you on a roller coaster still. His mood is still affecting you. I know it's difficult to detach, I guess that's why you are asking for mediation so you can stop the torture. Hang in there.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Confrontations with H is dragging you down. He is got you on a roller coaster still. His mood is still affecting you. I know it's difficult to detach, I guess that's why you are asking for mediation so you can stop the torture. Hang in there.
Yep, H is def. a downer for me!!! I want to try to stick to NC as much as possible, that works better for me.
The evaluator called today and can't evaluate the kids until the first 2 weeks of May. Hopefully she won't take too long typing up the evals so we can do mediation maybe in June. I don't think anything will be accomplished with that except maybe the child custody, b/c H won't agree to anything else. So prob. final hearing in late august or early fall. So months left of this. Karen
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