I think the bottom line to all of this is the fact that we are creatures created with a will of our own who can make choices.....even about love. I don't think anyone has fallen in love with a person they did not want to love. Movies may appear that women are swept off their feet in spite of fighting their feelings, but I doubt that in real life it is that way. However, we females may fantasize of that happening.....LOL.
That is a good point that I don't think has been made before. It reminds me of the myth of Psyche. Psyche marries the god Eros, but she is not allowed to look at him. And she falls in love with him and wants so badly to see the man she sleeps with. She fears that he looks like a monster. One night she lights a candle and drips wax on him, and he wakes up. It's a long story with a happy ending. But I guess my point is, if he had been an ugly monster, she wouldn't have loved him.
